Recreation is supposed to be funAre you incorporating recreation into your life regularly?

Recreation is defined as ‘activity done for enjoyment.’ It comes from the Latin ‘recreare’ which means to create again, renew, restore or revive.

Recreation is a great way to re-create your energy, improve your attitude and build resilience. Here’s why: Read the rest of this entry »

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Hope makes difficult bearableMaintaining a hopeful outlook is one of the traits The American Psychology Association identifies as being important to resilience. (apa.org)

Sounds easy and simplistic, doesn’t it? Read the rest of this entry »

“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.”Dr. Seuss

Wedding 25th anniversaryTwenty-five years ago today I married Phil McElhaney and it changed the trajectory of my life.

Today I celebrate our once-in-a-blue-moon love story!

On New Year’s Eve, 1990 there was a blue moon. I helped Phil host his annual NYE party. We’d only been dating a few months but when we went out on his back porch to look at the blue moon he told me he loved me. For the first time I said, “I love you, too.”

We married June 6, 1992 and vowed to love and cherish each other “‘till death do us part.” (We left out ‘obey!’) We had an amazing life with love, laughter, travel and adventure. This amazing man showed me what it meant to be fully loved. He taught me how to truly enjoy life. Tragically, only seventeen years Read the rest of this entry »

What looks like courage...Today I was talking with a friend about something we both want to do. I openly admitted to her that I’m afraid. Terrified is more like it.

I felt vulnerable admitting that. She’s already making strides and moving forward. I don’t like being seen as weak, wimpy or as someone who gives up easily. I wasn’t sure how my confession would go over. Read the rest of this entry »

speaking at Camp Widwo“When asked to list an emergency contact number, how many of you have to stop and think about whose name and number to write down?”

Hands shot up all around the room when I asked this question at a recent conference break-out session. We were at Camp Widow™ and my program on “From Sorrow to Social” was filled with recently widowed men and women. Read the rest of this entry »

Two widows walk into a hotel…

Sounds like the start of a joke, right? No joke here.

Hope quote - Myra.pngWhen Michele Neff Hernandez was widowed as a young woman she started Camp Widow™ and Soaring Spirits International so other widows, of any age, would have a place to focus on rebuilding their lives. Carrie West, another young widow was doing her Ph.D. research on resilience so the two teamed up. Read the rest of this entry »

Reading Sandberg's book.jpgI’ve started reading Sheryl Sandberg’s new book, “Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience and Finding Joy.” You likely remember that Sandberg, COO at Facebook and author of Lean In lost her husband Dave suddenly a couple years ago.

Her title comes from a conversation with a friend where when she said, “But I want Dave!” Her friend replied, “Option A is not available. So let’s just kick the shit out of Option B.” Read the rest of this entry »

Greys screenshot.pngI was watching and tweeting along with Shonda Rhimes and @GreysABC

Meredith Grey (played by Ellen Pompeo)was explaining to Nathan Riggs (played by Martin Henderson) why she couldn’t date him.

“I’m married!” she said.

Twitter lit up with emotional comments from followers.  Read the rest of this entry »

Michele Neff Hernandez Keynote

Michele Neff Hernandez giving Keynote for Camp Widow, Tampa

For National Women’s Month I want to tell you about an inspirational widow who had turned her sorrow into something amazing!

 

Michele Neff Hernandez was a young woman with three children when her husband, Phil was tragically killed while out riding his bicycle in 2005. When she couldn’t find a community of people like her who could offer understanding and support she created one. A big one! Read the rest of this entry »

Have you started dating since losing your spouse?

Book coverHere’s an excerpt from my book, Building A Life You Love After Losing the Love of Your Life about my first date after the loss of my husband.

The Perfect First Date

About two years after Phil passed I had my first date. At least I thought it was a date. Read the rest of this entry »